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Dear Friends and Neighbours,
I never liked Mother’s Day very much. I grew up in a flower shop. Mother’s Day weekend was always a very stressful time when my sister and I were conscripted to work in the store long into our years in University. My mother’s birthday was May 10, so that weekend was double pressure. Yet, we knew that because of our parents’ business my sister and I were able to go to university. Mothers Day weekend was always a day of mixed feelings for me.
As we approach Mother’s Day 2020, things are very different. COVID-19 has made every celebration different. We have muddled through and are getting better at facetime and Zoom suppers and celebrations. Just being ‘together while apart’ has been a new experience. But somehow Mother’s Day this year has a poignancy that jumps out at us.
The pictures of grown children ‘touching’ the hand of their mother through the glass window pane of the long term care facility in lock-down are heart wrenching.
It is so upsetting to hear the stories of the single mothers being chastised by strangers as they have had no option but to bring their children while grocery shopping.
Every day we are becoming aware of the difference between ‘Working from Home’ and the reality of Working at Home and trying to Work. Without childcare, productivity dwindles.
I was part of the revolution that insisted that fathers and whomever the labouring mother chose to support her would be permitted in the delivery room. It is so sad to think that women are now giving birth alone.
I am worried about all those mothers who are now locked into abusive situations, their children watching verbal and physical abuse on a daily basis. I am worried that some shelters are saying they are not full. They worry that the lock down has meant that women have been unable to flee their abusive situations. They understand that the ‘shadow pandemic’ of domestic abuse will only become evident as the restrictions are eased.
This Sunday I’ll be thinking of those who have just lost their mothers and the mothers who have lost their children to COVID-19. I’ll be thinking of the mothers and children in Nova Scotia whose grief we have shared, and the military families who lost a loved one in the tragic helicopter accident from the HMCS Fredericton.
This and every Mother’s Day, I am very conscious of those chosen ‘aunties’ who were like a mother to us, but never qualified as ‘next of kin’ in the strict enforcement of ‘family only’.
This Mother’s Day is somehow for all of them. It must underscore the need for this pandemic to begin the process to #BuildBackBetter.
From Long Term Care, Midwives, Support for Single Moms, Military Families, Gun Control, Domestic Violence, Child care, racism, misogyny…
Mother’s Day 2020 is an opportunity for all of us to recommit to #BuildBackBetter.